Winning IS NOT NORMAL
Winning is not normal. That does not mean there is anything wrong with winning.
It just means it's not normal. It's highly unusual.
Every competition has only one winner. No matter how many people enter, only one person/team wins the championship.
In order to win, you must do extraordinary things. You cannot just be one of the crowd. The crows does not win. You have to be willing to stand out and act differently.
Your actions need to reflect unusual values and priorities. You have to value success more than others do. You have to want it more. WANTING IT MORE IS A DECISION YOU MAKE AND ACT UPON - NOT SOME INHERIENT QUALITY OR BURNNING INNER DRIVE OR INSPIRATION. You have to make that value a priority.
You cannot train like everyone else. You have to train better. You cannot talk like everyone else. You cannot think like everyone else. You cannot join the crow, or act to the standards of the crowd, or do what is "in". "you need to be willing to stand out from the crowd in CONSISTENTLY and exceptional action. If you want to win, you need to accept the risks and perhaps the loneliness because.......... WINNING ISN'T NORMAL